Thursday, November 4, 2010
Finding A Grove
Well, it is November and it seems that we have found our grove. We can make it to 2 extras a week (ballet and Cub Scouts), 2 therapies a week (both therapeutic riding), two classes for mom and get all of our homework done! AND we are all wearing clean underpants! It took us a couple of months but we seem to be getting the hang of the school year. Now, if only everyone else could get with our grove, that would be great. It happens all the time, I begin to feel like I'm getting it and then someone comes along who doesn't get it. It is frustrating, to say the least. Yep, I know that Ben spends part of his day looking as if he has checked out of his body. And by the way, so did you. I really don't need you to tell me how frustrating it is that Ben's body language is screaming, ignoring you! I know. I'm the mom. It's been driving me nuts here for, let's see, SEVEN AND A HALF YEARS! Remember when we had that meeting with everyone and we talked about how mentally exhausting it is for Ben to just sit and breath, let alone process and retain info? Well, this is where you apply that information. Remember that part of the paperwork that stipulates allowing Ben repeat instructions and increased processing time. Now is the time to re-read that part. Did he know the answer? Has he replied incorrectly on any question you have asked him? Well then, he is listening, even if you don't like how he goes about it. I know that I should just let it roll off my back. I should remember that if he wasn't such a bright little guy who constantly resets the expectation of others, people wouldn't care if he looks like he has left the building. Just remember folks, he hasn't left the building. He hears you, that means everything you say. He has a harder job than you and he may even be smarter than you. Goodness knows, he is probably smarter than me. And by all means, get with our grove. Cause we rock!